THE MENOPAUSE SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR...MEN
If your relationship is struggling, don’t panic!
All you need to know right now is that:
You are not alone!
Men all over the world are at this very moment worried, anxious, depressed, and heartbroken. Relationships are crumbling to pieces as the strain of a simple lack of hormones turns them into toxic battlegrounds.
A high percentage of divorces can be partly attributed to the strain caused by menopause. So, the more information you have on how to handle this incredibly destructive natural phenomenon, the more likely you are to survive it.
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So why should you listen to me?
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Because I’ve been there. I’ve done the research. I was coldly and cruelly dumped and then brought back into the light of a loving relationship. I received thank-you notes and cards, was praised for my support, and was told she had never felt so close to someone or as deeply understood. I felt like the greatest partner ever.
But it came at a price, and we messed it up over something so stupid it would make you laugh if it wasn’t so tragic.
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You can avoid that. I’ll share my journey, the hazards, and pitfalls I faced, and give you information and ideas on how to deal with certain issues. Hopefully, this will help you make wiser choices and comfort you by knowing that you are not alone.
People tend to keep this kind of thing to themselves, but I believe everyone should be talking about menopause. After all, 51% of the population goes through it, yet most people don’t know much about it until it’s actually happening. And then it’s a massive shock to suddenly have so many changes suddenly be thrown at you.
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In fact, the main reason I’m doing this is because there is barely any information available for men on coping with their partners going through menopause. And what is out there is often condescending and one-sided. It’s ridiculous that something so significant in a relationship with a female is not taught to men. We are not told to expect it or how to deal with it.
And the information we are given is pretty sparse. Deal with it. It happens. They make it all about her. But the reality is that it affects both of you. It affects your entire family.
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I’m sorry, but just being told to be kind, calm, and understanding isn’t good enough. We need to be told what to expect and what to do.
Most importantly, we need to know how to look after ourselves and our mental well-being as well. Of course we want to support our partners, but not at the expense of our own well-being. We can’t help if we’re a complete emotional mess. I know this from bitter experience.
After being mentally destroyed, I was told that she didn’t want to fix yet another man. After supporting her for a year! So it is vitally important that you know what she’s likely to experience and learn how to deal with it appropriately. Most articles on menopause barely touch on the effects it will have on a you and how it can seriously affect your mental health and ultimately destroy a loving relationship.
Another major caveat:
I was brought back in out of the cold due to HRT medication finally working. It’s important to note that while HRT can be highly effective for many women, factors such as personal health and history play a significant role in determining whether HRT is appropriate. So if your partner is unable to take HRT, my experience may or may not be helpful to you.
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And one more extremely vital thing you need to know: Every woman’s experience with menopause is totally unique. There are no absolutes or guarantees. All you can do is arm yourself with as much information as possible and do your best to navigate each situation.
Now, onto the big questions you really want answers to.
Once your partner’s hormone levels are balanced:
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•She will kiss you again.
•You will hold hands again.
•She will want you to hold her.
•You will cuddle up in bed again, and she won’t be drenched in sweat.
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•Yes, she will want to have sex with you again.
•She won’t be irritated by your existence.
•She will be joyful, laugh, and be playful with you.
•She will find you attractive and fascinating again.
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All of this is assuming you haven’t been a complete tool throughout the whole thing and that there aren’t other factors at play. Even if the HRT works and you are back to behaving like a normal couple, there will still be issues that you will have to face together.
My situation was a little unique at the end but I will explain in further detail in Chapter 2 as we look at the psychological aspects of both of you going through this and how they can suddenly catch you off guard.
For now, kick back, crack open a beer (if she’ll let you), and take a look through my guide on how to keep a woman who is hell-bent on doing everything in her power to drive you away.
And if you like this blog, share your thoughts, and any personal experiences you've had in the comments.
Remember, no matter how desperate the situation seems or how low or frustrated you feel right now, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
There is hope.
It is possible to repair your relationship.
It’s all a matter of time, patience, education, and love.
Put the effort in now, and you may just get the love of your life back!
In the next article, we’ll take a look at what menopause is, why it happens, and the main symptoms your partner can expect to experience...