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Sex and Intimacy

As previously mentioned, lack of sex and intimacy can build up an atmosphere of tension and mistrust. It can often lead to angry confrontations as both sides feel the their needs outweigh the other partners. It is vital that you work together on this. It's not just about getting some action. Touch is an important part of maintaining a strong connection. There's a reason why newborn babies are placed on the skin of their mothers. Touch is how humans connect on a deep level. You don't have to have sex to be intimate, and you're far more likely to build sexual tension and passion for one another by touching. Let's take a look at some ways we can rebuild trust and intimacy.

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Building Trust and Reconnecting Through Touch

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Navigating the changes brought on by menopause can sometimes create distance between partners. Rebuilding trust and fostering physical intimacy is essential for maintaining a strong and loving relationship. Here’s how you can use trust-building and touching exercises to reconnect with your partner.

 

Open Communication

 

 

  • Why It Matters: Open communication is the foundation of trust. It allows you both to express your feelings, concerns, and desires without judgment.

 

  • How to Practice: Have regular, honest conversations about your relationship and sexual needs. Approach discussions with empathy for one another and with an open mind. There shouldn't be any pressure on either side.

 

Consistent Support

 

  • Why It Matters: Providing emotional support shows your partner that you care and that you are committed to their well-being.

 

  • How to Practice: Be present and attentive to your partner’s needs. Offer encouragement and reassurance, especially during challenging times. Don't lose your temper if you aren't getting the intimacy that you desire. Again, communication is key.

 

 

Respecting Boundaries

 

 

  • Why It Matters: Respecting each other’s boundaries is crucial in building trust and ensuring both partners feel safe and valued.

 

  • How to Practice: Discuss and understand each other’s limits and comfort zones. Avoid pressuring your partner into physical intimacy as this will alienate her. Appreciate that she doesn't feel like it right now, and suggest the following exercises to improve the situation. There is no guarantee that she will agree, but you should at least try. â€‹

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Touching Exercises to Rebuild Intimacy

 

Non-Sexual Touch

 

  • Why It Matters: Non-sexual touch can help re-establish physical connection without the pressure of sexual expectations. It's important that you do this with honest intentions. If she starts to feel you're building up to something more, she will shut down on you and not only will it be unlikely that she will try any other exercises, but it's going to build up resentment. You have to work slowly and build up trust.

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** REMEMBER - You just want reassurance and validation that she still loves you. She just wants reassurance and validation that you still love her. Trust me on this. Even if you're just desperate for sex right now, after a few months you will be willing to kill just to get a nice hug.

 

  • How to Practice:​

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  • Holding Hands: Spend time holding hands during everyday activities. It’s a simple way to maintain physical contact.

 

  • Gentle Touch: Incorporate gentle touches, like a light touch on the arm or back, into daily interactions.

 

 

Cuddling and Embracing

 

  • Why It Matters: Cuddling and embracing can promote closeness and increase feelings of affection and safety.

 

  • How to Practice:

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  • Snuggle Time: Set aside time each day for cuddling on the couch or in bed. Focus on being close and comfortable.

 

  • Embrace Techniques: Practice long, lingering hugs and focus on the sensation of being held.

 

 

Sensual Massages

 

  • Why It Matters: Sensual massages can help relax and reconnect with your partner through touch.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

 

  • Back and Shoulder Massage: Use gentle pressure and soothing strokes to ease tension and promote relaxation.

 

  • Foot Rubs: Give each other foot massages as a way to unwind and enjoy physical closeness.

 

 

Mirror Exercises

 

  • Why It Matters: Mirror exercises can help build trust and connection by mirroring each other’s movements and feelings.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

 

  • Emotional Reflection: Share your feelings and listen actively as your partner reflects back their own emotions and experiences.

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  • Physical Reflection: Mirror each other’s movements in a gentle and playful manner, such as mimicking gestures or movements.

 

Exploring New Sensations

 

  • Why It Matters: Introducing new sensations can reignite curiosity and pleasure in a non-threatening way.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

 

  • Texture Exploration: Use different textures, like silk scarves or soft brushes, to explore each other’s skin and discover new sensations.

 

  • Temperature Play: Experiment with warm and cool sensations, such as using a warm towel or cool ice cubes, to enhance physical experiences.

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​​Building Emotional Intimacy

 

Quality Time

 

  • Why It Matters: Spending quality time together strengthens emotional bonds and enhances intimacy.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

  • Date Nights: Plan regular date nights or special outings to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company.

 

  • Shared Activities: Engage in activities that you both enjoy, such as cooking together or taking walks.

 

Affirmations and Appreciation

 

  • Why It Matters: Expressing appreciation and affirmations reinforces positive feelings and strengthens your relationship.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

  • Daily Compliments: Offer genuine compliments and express gratitude for your partner’s qualities and actions.

 

  • Love Notes: Write and exchange love notes or letters to remind each other of your affection and commitment.

 

Emotional Check-Ins

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  • Why It Matters: Regular emotional check-ins help address any concerns and reinforce your emotional connection.

 

  • How to Practice:

 

  • Feelings Sharing: Share your feelings and ask about your partner’s emotional state. Address any issues openly and supportively.

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Tips for Maintaining Connection

​Patience and Understanding

 

  • Why It Matters: Rebuilding physical and emotional intimacy takes time and patience. Understanding each other’s pace is crucial.

 

  • How to Practice: Approach the process with compassion and avoid rushing or pressuring your partner.

 

Mutual Goals

 

  • Why It Matters: Setting mutual goals for intimacy can help both partners feel invested in improving the relationship.

 

  • How to Practice: Discuss and agree on goals related to physical touch, emotional connection, and sexual intimacy.

 

Seeking Professional Help

 

  • Why It Matters: Sometimes, professional guidance can provide additional support and strategies for enhancing intimacy.

 

  • How to Practice: Consider seeking couples therapy or counseling to address any underlying issues and improve your relationship.

 

By using these trust-building practices and touching exercises, you can maintain the loving bond with your partner and build a deeper connection that can satisfy both of you. These strategies are designed to enhance both physical and emotional intimacy.

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Always remember to stick to your word, and not push for anything extra. It will eventually come, but you have to have the utmost patience.

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